I am a Christian, so my wife, my friend and my help mate is the love of my life. What we tend to forget today, is that it is our jobs to be the same, to reciprocate the love that Christ had for His church for our wife or husband.
So many divorces today and only one real reason for it, laziness. Of course this comes from both sides of the plate, but laziness leads to so many other feelings that eventually it creeps in a destroys.
Here is my take this Valentines Day of how we should be as men and, how we should look at our wives…as the women that they are and the character they show that we love.
If You Think You Can “Fall Out Of Love,” Your An Idiot…
I am a jerk sometimes. I work all the time. I sometimes find myself listening, but tuned out from time to time. Yeah, told you I am a jerk sometimes.
But what is truly amazing to me, is that she still loves me, and I her. If you think that the grass is greener on the other side, you are a moron. Grow up, get real and look her or him in the eyes. You will see how stupid the thought that you can fall out of love really is.
I can understand it when you are 18-29 years old, shoot, you should not even be able to vote until after 30…I mean seriously, what do you really know about love, life and living until that point? You may think you are in love, and if by chance you are, good for you, but stick to it.
I do not mean to be hard on the younger folks, it’s just that I have learned the hard way that LOVE of a good woman, is something earned.
If you are some liberal, leave now, you will have no concept of what I am about to say on the rest of this post, seriously, leave. A woman is a help mate. She is not an “independent” woman any more than I am an “independent” man. We are one now, meant to help each other.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
The original word I believe was “cleave” to his wife. I personally believe that word more defines what is supposed to be. To cleave is to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly according to the dictionary.
While God stressed this about the man, women need pay attention today as well. When the divorce rate is as high as the married rate, it does not mean this is a “new” way of modern living, it means we have an attention deficit problem, and that problem is that all our attention is on ourselves.
But what do you expect from a sick and disgusting culture that teaches “feel good” over doing good. Well, as for me and myself, I will serve the Lord and, my wife.
To Christine…I Love You This Much…
I love you as Christ loves His Church and was willing to lay His life down for it…just as He did. That is my call to you dear woman. Some days it does not seem like it, because some days I am a jerk and inconsiderate. But, I can learn and, I do.
Like most in this world, I have seen the side of “falling out of love” with someone, I even used the excuse myself I guess you could say. Eventually we find out that we did not fall out of love, we just never really loved at all. It was all about how I felt at the time, shame on me.
When we look inside ourselves, we finally understand that “ourselves” is the problem, we get wrapped up in ourselves, our beliefs about ourselves and how “we” should be respected, trusted, thought of and all the while, never think of doing these things first. We always demand it from others, yet never from “ourselves”.
I met my wife and knew. It was as if a dream I had conjured up was granted by God himself, and it probably was, because apart from Him, we can do nothing, not even fall in love.
When we actually read the Bible we find that Love is the cause for everything and, it is the end of everything. While most people think it is just a story book or, simply despise it, this one Book alone contains the word LOVE more than any other book in the world.
This is why we ignore it, because the love it talks about is a love that we cannot naturally give of our own accord. This kind of love is “patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…”
It never fails, but we do. Still, this is no excuse for quiting.
This Valentines Day I want to say this, I love you Christine, with all the heart and mind God has given me. I will fail some days. I will stumble from time to time. I will be a jerk once in a while. Either way however, there is no excuse on part about these, it is just me being selfish or self centered in the instances. Forgive me when I do.
My Wife, My Friend…
You are my best friend. You are my wife. Being in the position to work at home has been amazing, all because it has given me more time here with you and the kiddos.
My call to you who read this, GROW THE HECK UP! It is time we stop looking at ourselves all the time, how you feel is only a “part” of the equation, part I say. The rest is about the other person.
If you think you can simply walk away from your wife, go for it, but you are a fool in a fools paradise always thinking that the grass is greener over there. It’s not, and, it is more empty than you who left in the first place.
Today’s problems start in the home and, they end in the home. I have recently seen what happens when we are so wrapped up in our own selves that we forget others. It is sad, it hurts and, it’s dangerous.
My friend loves me, she will not quit me, nor I her. Unlike many in this world, we keep hope close, we forgive, we grow and learn together what God has for us…a long and happy eternity.
I love you my dear wife…